Life with Girls

I realized I wrote this  over 2 years ago  and I never published it  ..... the infant boy never left and we adopted him  I have so much catching up to do  but I'm not sure that will ever happen so I think I better just start from today  and try and move forward

An infant boy who's mother declared her intent to put him up for adoption.  He was placed in an adoptive home through an agency; but she never signed the paperwork and the little boy had to come into foster care. He was with us only a week when we found out he had a half sibling in another state with relatives (of the brother)  They had expressed an interest in the baby but no decisions had been made.   A couple weeks later the Judge approved them to start the process of and interstate adoption plan.  6 months later we are still waiting for that process to be complete. And so I have fostered and loved a little boy who will never be mine.   The difference is this time I was prepared.  I have had the amazing opportunity to work with the family out of state who is raising the brother.  They are not related biologically to this little one but they are related to his brother. They have raised him for the past nearly 8 years and have done a wonderful Job.  It helps that they are very appreciative of the efforts we have given.  They are excited to include us as "extended family" and have become wonderful friends. We text, we call, we Skype, we have even had the opportunity to visit.   We are working together to try and co parent this little one while we await the transfer and I hope he will benefit because of it.  We are even planning a trip next Summer to attend his 1st birthday party.

I know only a little bit of what these girls were exposed to or suffered... and it was enough.  I'm not sure I want to know the details.  The older girl has chosen No contact with her Mother and has No desire to return.  The case plan lasts until after her 18th birthday and So she will become and Adult here in foster care and then move on to independence. 

Our teen daughter told me one day "Every day I wake up here I pray that this isn't just a dream and that this is all real... My life is so much better now... But then I realize that My Mom probably wakes up everyday and prays that this is all just a bad dream ... and it make me feel Sad"   She recognizes and talks to us about how unfair it all is... that these bad things never should have happened.  She is sad that No one ever came to save her before... and she is glad to finally be in a place where she says she feels safe and has Hope.   She is learning to be a Teen and is a good one.  She is making good friends, making good decisions and learning how to do "school"  Although she is technically a Junior she had only 4 high school classes she had completed (about 1/2 a semesters worth)   But we have her enrolled in one of the best High Schools around and she is doing well.  She passed all her classes this semester and we have a plan to get her graduated.